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Have you made the choice to be Happy?

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Certain goals like achieving wealth, getting rich or earning a promotion do not to make much difference in a person’s level of happiness. It might bring some excitement in your life but excitement is temporary.

Happiness is permanent and non-dependent on external factors. Happiness is not found in grey areas. It is black and white, either you are happy or you are not. If you are a happy person, you will find happiness everywhere.

Remember the time, as a child, when you ran back home to have a cool glass of water on a hot summer day because you were really really thirsty or when you were on the highway and you really had to piss but there was no restroom around and suddenly you spot a petrol pump.

The feeling of peace and silence you get when you drank a chilled glass of water or when you give a warm hug to a baby or when you feed a hungry dog on your street is a real glimpse of happiness.

Happiness is not an emotion, emotions change with situations and circumstances. Happiness is a sense of being, it is who you are and how you were born. As we grow older, we loose our true self in the mind. We start to depend on external factors for “happiness”. We make happiness conditional:

  • If I find the love of my life, only then can I be happy
  • If I get flawless skin, I will be happy
  • If I wear nice clothes and get appreciated by others, I will be happy
  • If I buy the latest mobile phone or car I will feel happy
  • If my children get good grades, I will be happy

The above is one path towards our search of happiness and that too a wrong one because you are depending on the other for happiness. This path is usually taken by 99{c478bb159a3ffd2cf9a0d465504fe257d274e4492c7996716987ec7dff1da5ed} of people in this world.

The 1{c478bb159a3ffd2cf9a0d465504fe257d274e4492c7996716987ec7dff1da5ed} take a separate path. They take the path of wisdom. Wisdom or vidya is defined as “the way to reach the truth.”

In terms of happiness, the path of vidya would include those choices, values and beliefs that actually succeed in making us happy. If children can be guided from an early age, they can be taught to make such choices. The rest of us will have to unlearn and undo our past errors as a first step.

What Kinds of Choices and Values Lead to Real Happiness?

  • Meditation, which opens up deeper levels of the mind.
  • Actions that benefit others.
  • Social relationships that support intimacy and bonding.
  • Inspiration through reading the world’s scriptures and poetry.
  • Taking enjoyment in natural beauty.
  • Having a vision of personal fulfillment that you follow every day.
  • Aiming for inner fulfillment rather than external fulfillment.
  • Reducing stress.
  • Taking time for peaceful reflection.
  • Learning to love your own company, cultivating the self as a state of being.
  • Eschewing violence and anger in all its forms, gross and subtle.
  • Resolving conflicts, both inner and outer, rather than letting them build up.
  • Paying one’s debt to the past, which means healing old hurts and grievances.
  • Stepping away from group think and second-hand opinions.
  • Giving up a belief in enemies and us-versus-them thinking.
  • Cultivating kindness and compassion.
  • Being generous of spirit, learning to give.
  • Seeing yourself as part of a larger humanity, and humanity itself as an expression of the divine, despite our flaws.

Once you begin to walk the path of wisdom, a new perspective opens up, and everything you once thought and believed begins to be seen in a new light.

Be as mad as you want. Be as crazy as you want. Be a rebel and don’t give in. You know what your values are, you know who you are and you know how to be happy.

 Be part of the 1{c478bb159a3ffd2cf9a0d465504fe257d274e4492c7996716987ec7dff1da5ed} who make a choice to be happy.

A Sufi mystic who had always remained happy was asked…. For seventy years people had watched him, he had never been found sad. One day they asked him, ‘What is the secret of your happiness?’ He said, ‘There is no secret. Every morning when I wake up, I meditate for five minutes and I say to myself, ‘Listen, now there are two possibilities: you can be miserable, or you can be blissful. Choose.’ And I always choose to be blissful.’ – Osho