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Tinder: Yes or No?


So, Tinder has been around for a while now and it might not be article that you had been waiting for but we can talk about it anyway because…why not? So we all know by now that it’s a location-based app that pulls info from your Facebook to create your profile, and then pulls up ‘matches’ that meet your age/sex/location criteria. All you see of these potential matches are a few photos, any mutual friends or interests (according to your FB profile) and one tagline. Then you ‘swipe right’ if you find them attractive, and left if you don’t (bonus: when you swipe left you get a satisfying stamp across their picture that says ‘NOPE.’) It’s slightly vain and shallow but it’s also addictive. From there, if you also fall into their criteria (age, sex, distance) and they find you attractive: you match. Then you can chat, swap numbers, meet up, get Catfished, etc. All of this, for just ‘acceptance’…sigh!

All of this sounds alright if one sees it from the perspective of a dating site, but the ones who claim to be ‘addicted’ to it are in some serious trouble. Isn’t it a little weird to think that people are filed away on the sole basis of their attractiveness? Furthermore, one is expected to make split second decisions based on minimal facts and trust complete strangers. That’s problematic, given that 80{c478bb159a3ffd2cf9a0d465504fe257d274e4492c7996716987ec7dff1da5ed} of the men on Tinder like to “work hard, play hard,” have many leather-bound books and apartments that smell of rich mahogany, and know approximately one phrase in Latin. Oh and how could I forget their “passion for travelling” (and working out)! Yeah, that pretty much sums it up. And by the way, the girls are not any less fancy than the men either. Everyone is stuck in the loop!

This Tinder generation epitomizes the ‘life in the fast lane’. Everything needs to be instant. The fact that one has an account on Tinder solely means that they are looking for action! Nobody is on Tinder for friendship, who are we kidding here? It seems like no one has the time for long conversations anymore to actually know a person. All that matters is just their physical proximity and availability. Where are we heading to with this notion? Social media has made us expert first-daters, well-versed in small talk and over-sharing with strangers. The quick follow-though from swipe to sex is similarly instinctive for a generation with an appetite for immediacy.

Admittedly, there are surely a few good dudes on there who swipe with their heart and not their penis — but guess where else you can find good guys? In the city. Spoiler alert! The guy/girl you’re looking for is not on Tinder! Now we’re so driven by technology, you can spend your life “talking” to people on your phone or computer and never actually see anyone. What happened to the time when you met someone at a party or through a mutual friend and instantly felt that rush inside you? Time seemed simpler when the work was done in the old fashioned way.

To any woman who thinks guys are worse than ever (or vice versa), believe me when I say that’s not the case at all. Take your chances offline — and instead of deleting guys from your life, delete Tinder instead. Get out there, talk to people, and start living in the real world. Tinder won’t do anything but make you forget about the beauty you truly are.